Getting back on track after pregnancy, surgery, recovery time and adjusting to a brand new lifestyle of sleepless nights, countless diaper changes, and a thousand kisses a day because I cannot get enough of his cute face.
The struggle is real. I have no time for anything, I barely sleep, I can never finish a full meal and I’ve gone without showering for longer than I’d like to admit. My body aches everywhere. I need to get back on track! Don’t get me wrong, things have calmed down significantly now that Little E is 2 months old. It’s gotten easier, but still difficult to nail down a routine of any kind. So I have to get in where I fit it, otherwise, I’ll forget about myself…which is not happening!
Whether you’re a new mom like me, or you’re just human going through a phase in life that has thrown you off track a bit, we all find ourselves in a rut for various reasons throughout our lives. Shit happens! Don’t beat yourself up about it. As important as it is to address the matter you are going through, or to learn to adjust to the new lifestyle, it is equally important to get back to yourself and not live in that space where you are constantly making excuses not to get back on track. It’s an easy space to stay in but, trust me, not ideal in the long run.
If you’re anything like me, you like a bit of a routine, something to at least make some sense out of this chaos and that also allows you to see some progress. That can seem impossible depending on what you’re going through. But if you keep telling yourself that it’s impossible, you’ll keep believing it.
So the first step is to want to make a change; get back on track, start something new, add to your existing routine…whatever it is, you start by wanting to. Simple.
Now, what seems like the hardest part is to carve out a few minutes a day (or every other day…whatever works for you) and just start.
“There is no such thing as being too busy. If you really want something, you’ll make time for it”
Get Back To Your “Why”
Getting started is literally the hardest part. Once you start, you’re already over that hurdle so you can pat yourself on the back and keep going. One way that is helping me do that is to go back to my “why”. If I don’t know why I’m doing something, it’s very easy to lose interest. So I think about why I started in the first place. For me, yoga helps my body work more efficiently. I move better, which in turn helps me feel and think better. So reminding myself of these benefits during a time where I’m dragging my feet and feeling sluggish helps motivate me to get back on the mat.
Focus in One Area and Watch It Expand
Although I do not generally associate yoga with being “goal oriented”, something that does keep me going, is having something to be excited about in my practice. I don’t practice yoga to lose weight, become more flexible or any one single reason. There are various reasons I enjoy the practice which is why I don’t really ever “achieve a specific goal”, but I do focus on specific outcomes.
When I started yoga, I was inspired by inversions. Upside ones in particular; headstands, forearm stands, and handstands. So when I started practicing headstands, I realized how tight different areas of my body were whenever I got into the pose. So even though I was eventually able to get into a headstand, my core was shaky and my abs were weak. So I became determined to correct that and got excited about working on my core to enhance the posture.
What started with me wanting to nail a headstand, soon expanded to me focusing on new muscles to make the most of this and other poses. This lead me to realize my hips were tight, which showed me my hamstrings were tight and so on. I always found a new avenue to increase my motivation and keep me going.
“Do something, until you do something” ~unknown
At this point, it feels as if I’m starting all over, not completely from scratch but I need to put more work to get to where I was before. This can be deflating for some people. And kind of was at first for me. My hips, lower back, and legs took a hit from bearing all the weight from the pregnancy. So now I have to be mindful of my movements and what areas need the most attention in my lower body. I can’t lift my legs and press up the way I used to. Yes, it was discouraging at first, but I got over sulking about it, and I’m starting small.
First of all, there is nothing wrong with starting over. Unless you find yourself doing it every other month, then that’s another story, I can’t help you there. But starting over can be viewed as an opportunity to catapult yourself past the person you once thought you could become.
“If it’s important to you, you’ll find a way. If not, you’ll find an excuse”
Starting small is also not as overwhelming as going in hard right away. I am focusing on one area at a time, and from there my body is able to direct me to the next area that needs attention. Like the headstand example. It’s not as overwhelming when I take small steps like this, especially since finding the time to even brush my teeth is a luxury. But I feel like life is just telling me to slow down and take it easy anyway.
When you are working on yourself, there is no end goal. And not because you’re a never-ending mess, but because you can always achieve more, why wouldn’t you want to? At the end of the day, the choice is really yours. If you really want something you will do it, no excuses. Even if for five minutes a day until you start getting the hang of your new life.
“If you only kinda want it, you’ll only kinda get it” ~Julian Hall
Good luck! You got this!